August 13, 2018

My husband and I entered marriage with a "pre-nup." We agreed that were going to have two kids (a boy and then a girl, he said), and we were going to raise our kids in a progressive environment where we shared the work fairly and modeled what we wanted to see in the wo...

July 23, 2018

I've been asked versions of this many times: "why is this so hard?" "Why does it seem like this is so much easier for people around me?" "Why does this have to suck so much?"

Unless you're experiencing true, deep trauma, the short answer is the obvious one: our lives ar...

June 28, 2018

I’ve had an unusual number of conversations lately with people who were interested in coaching, and wanted to try it out. And after a conversation or two, they walked away and changed their lives. 

I’m not talking about a little change, either. These are people who come...

May 11, 2018

You've seen this. Maybe you've lived it. You interview for a job, and the team and company seem great. They have great answers to all your questions, seem to respect each other, and share values consistent with your own. You accept the offer, but you're not there long...

March 26, 2018

Starting out as a full-time coach, I offer a free session to many people, because in return for helping others, I am gathering experience and learning. Trying new things and failing constantly. Truly giving myself license to fail, which is something I've never done bef...

March 26, 2018

What does it mean to "think to yourself"? Have you ever heard the following in your head:

  • On a bad day: I can't believe I did that... I am such an idiot!

  • On an ordinary day perhaps: I am so tired...

  • On a really good day: I am a rockstar!

Having voices in...

January 17, 2018

Back in August, I stood on the roof of a houseboat on Lake Shasta, over a dozen feet above the surface of the water. My husband and my children had already jumped into the water. Now, I have always been afraid of heights. While I have no problem standing on the glass f...

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